Being a Control Freak is NOT sexy!

Stop the incessant controlling over your partner. It's not sexy in fact it will eventually if not sooner, end the relationship with animosity. Have you been called "controlling" or given the label 'OCD" ? Imagine how others experience you. Do you really want your partner to cringe every time you open your mouth? Then do you expect them to want to have sex with you? Or do you direct that too?  Or when he or she suggests something or makes a decision you go right to the negative? You may not hear yourself, and I'm sure it is not your intention to put your loved one on the defensive. 

No matter what, the damage takes a toll on the relationship. Even though you may think, on occasion that he or she doesn't know what they are doing,and that they aren't as smart or clever or efficient as you, LET IT BE! They can't be complete numskulls you wouldn't be with them. 

Here's an idea why not talk and discuss what's best for the both of you. 

For example, if he goes to the store to get baked beans but brings back the wrong brand does he deserve execution? Maybe communication is lacking. Maybe you are looking for fault, why? Maybe, you're hurt because all these years you have been serving him Heinz Baked Beans and he never took notice, beans being the metaphor for all the other little nuances he overlooked or as you may feel  he took for granted. Talk about it without criticism or disdain.
If this continues, then you may need a referee or counselor. for more info or share with us on our Facebook Page, or go to: www.danagreco.com.  

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