Is SEX his BINKY?

How often I hear women complain "He doesn't talk to me"  but then all he wants to do is have sex with me.
Have you thought that maybe sex for him is soothing and a means to connect for security? As much of a pacifier is to a baby, so sex is to some men, and some women. We are not gender bias, however, let's face it we hear the complaints more from the women. This may also be because you will rarely hear a man complain his partner always want to have sex? so we get it. point taken.

The issue here is what do you do about a partner who has difficulty communicating verbally? Leaving you feeling alone and then reaches out for a physical connection.  Most times you will give in, of course you are starved for the connection.  The problem never goes away. Next time, when he or she shuts you out or limits the verbal, ask your partner to share a thought with you. Ask your partner to tell you one good thing that happened that day.  Foreplay can be verbal and/or physical.  As you touch and stroke, share thoughts, not necessarily emotions because this may be too awkward.  Talk about anything and let your partner do the talking.   It needs to get out of the head and out of his mouth.

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