Unique book on parenting

Please Don't BUY me Ice Cream, a child's rules for priceless parenting,  has been a favorite among many good parents. Along with many other notable therapists, this book has proven to make parenting much more enjoyable, and validating. It is not filled with unrealistic tasks and homework, in fact quite the opposite, it's the children that are telling you Mom and Dad what THEY need. Buy it today, it's an easy read and fun to discuss with the whole family.

Here's to the next generation of healthy people

One little boy avoids making friends he feels guilty leaving his mom home alone. My own mother made me feel bad every time I left the house, she'd say " Go go, have a good time, I'll be ok." sitting there with her sad face I felt torn, miserable and guilty.
We know today's parent are much wiser, but that's because you have access to good resources and you do the research, however, the pain of a lost marriage and divorced home does not take away our sadness nor hide it.
In my book "Please Don't Buy Me Ice cream, a child's rules for priceless parenting" by Dana Greco, points out the very important fact that children cannot solve problems at an adult level. Read this book, order it on Amazon or B&N or send a check to Dana Greco 536 west 111th Street #5 NY NY 10025
Read about what children are feeling, and see if you are on the right track
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children of divorce

we all know that children get hurt when their parents divorce, and even though sometimes the relief of their parents no longer fighting in the home is positive. unfortunately, children will forget about the fighting or often heal from the trauma and intensity of the yelling or screaming that went on, and be left with the loss and emptiness of a broken home. As the human condition heals, so do the memories of fighting fade. yet the reality for children is their parents live apart, maybe move on to new relationships and their lives are disrupted with schlepping from home to home, hello to mom  good bye to dad, hello to dad goodbye to mon day after day after day
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If your spouse is GAY

when your dating your man or woman and you suspect he or she may be gay what do you do?
The possibility is that they may be bi-sexual which is most likely. Your relationship may become serious and end up in marriage with children. And like any other marriage it is prone to infidelity if the connection is lost.
Chances are your spouse may turn to another partner either the opposite sex like you or want to explore their homosexual relationship. When this happens their is sometimes a feeling of betrayal not only the infidelity but the betrayal of truth about sexuality. If you suspect that your partner may be gay it is best for them to explore this before the commitment of marriage. Suppressing the truth will only hurt everyone eventually.
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Balance in relationships vary

Do you know what makes your relationship work? What keeps it balanced/ Giving each other space and freedom or maintaining a daily physical connection? Talking or not talking but be with each other in a mindful spiritual or present state and sharing a movie.
Are you both in need of socialization or do one of you stay in and agree to be apart from social circles
Are one of you the ambitious type while the other is the silent supporter?
What works for you?
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" if you want a man to really commit to you seduce you, chase you, and keep that spark going forever you can't just make him love you, you've got to make him ADDICTED to you ."

 We heard this from a "relationship expert" What do you think? Does addiction mean healthy relationship.
What is being addicted to you partner really mean?
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Saturday Night Date for couples

http://www.meetup.com/NYC-Relationships-After-Divorce/events/161192862/
 go here and sign up want to get to know your partner more? make your relationship LAST?
join us for our get together this Saturday
refreshments will be served and conversation will be for allhttp://www.meetup.com/NYC-Relationships-After-Divorce/events/161192862/
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Einstein was correct!

he said " women marry men and hope they will change, and men marry women hoping they will never change, inevitably both are disappointed" many couples marry and secretly think this very thing. Are you in a relationship that maybe, just maybe there are little personality nuances you would like to see tweeked, enhanced or completely omitted?
our soon to be published book "Happy Today Divorced Tomorrow, paving the way to happily ever after" will cover this and many other topics that will make your relationship work better than ever.
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LIVING TOGETHER YET?

Should you live together or live apart? How do you know if it's time to move into together? Financial savings should not be the reason, unless you also accept that the relationship can end up with you both as roommates paying your share.
Moving into together can have its pros and cons. This is where you both should make a list and be honest.
For example, if you have a need for personal time, then tell him or her. Sitting on your bed or on the couch with a book, watching TV or staring at your laptop means, "I like to be alone for a bit". That's perfectly normal and acceptable, what wouldn't be fair is if you never shared that vital piece of information. Then when you are overwhelmed with too much together time suddenly your behavior changes, to the negative.

Each of you may have a different perspective of what is shared time, living together time, alone time, etc. If one of you works in the home, it doesn't mean that when your finished for the day you are ready to be social. Yet, the partner who is home also, is.
Living together can add excitement and more passion or be a disaster. Setting boundaries and discussing them will make an adjustment a pleasant one.
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BOOK IS FINISHED

We would like to take this day to announce we have finally completed our book. HAPPY TODAY DIVORCED TOMORROW? Paving the way to Happily Ever After.
Don and I have written a unique and informational book. He wrote his version and I wrote mine.
we both offer personal insight from our personal experiences of divorce, he being divorced twice and I as a child of a bitter divorce. and that's the intro, the rest of the book are resources, tools and inspiration on how to make YOUR relationship the very best it can be. We hope you will read it when it hits the books stores.
It's the ONLY relationship book you will ever need.

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SEX TONE

Who sets the tone for intimacy in your relationship? Is it him, because he is a man and needs to have his 72 hour sex cycle satisfied? Or is it her who feels lonely or rejected and needs to cuddle?
What and who initiates the affection in your relationship? Does it include sex and toys and adventure, or is it about love and romance? Is it about both, and if so who suggests what? Or do neither one of you say anything and it remains the same routine. Are you both wanting to enhance, or is just one of you thinking that? And the other is fine with the way it is as long as it is consistent. Well MAKE UP YOUR MIND. If the love and affection and the sex in your relationship can be better and more exciting maybe because one of you took the initiative to do something about it, then instead of thinking your partner is a pervert allow and encourage an upgrade. Go for the GOLD www.danagreco.com www.meditationandcounseling.com
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DIVORCE CORP. THE FILM

The documentary Divorce Corp. Scared the daylights out of me.It was produced the National Parents Organization. Divorce is not a billion dollar industry for saving families. All I can urge and not strongly enough is to  STAY OUT OF THE COURTS! PLEASE I'm sure the judges and attorneys believe they they are following the law and constitution and they have every right to their practice and ethics, just make sure you are not a statistic that gets sucked into it.
MEDIATE!
Watch the film if you don't believe me. I had nightmares.Even if you are contemplating divorce and you don't think you can sit with the ex and mediate a negotiation then find a mediator/counselor/therapist we are out there and we keep the session civil, and support you both.
Look at our websites and find someone in your area
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JUST SAY IT

There are a lot of things that I get suspicious of. Not that I'm paranoid, but when it comes to relationships I have learned from experience and practicing, that many do not mean what they say. They may wish it, but no follow through. When you hold yourself accountable that is integrity, are you also holding your partner accountable? Don't allow him or her to slip by and you may excuses for them. If they stand for something, if they say something, if they believe in something and have expressed as though it is their principle then YOU make sure you SEE it in action. Too often people say things for effect, My motto is, "talking lessen the act of doing". If by talking about it gets the attention or reaction form others, often the follow through dies,why should they follow through , the proposal received the applause already, be careful not to fall into this trap, If your partner says they will do something, then it only counts when it's DONE.
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Will You LOVE again?

Many people who are contemplating divorce often worry that they may never find love again. Trust me YOU DO, it doesn't mean you find the healthy love but if you are a relationship type person chances are you will be in a relationship again.
For you who likes being in a relationship, you will or might be solo for a bit maybe a few months, a year, maybe a few weeks. The good news is you will seek out and find. Be careful of the REBOUND
Just make sure this time or at least try to observe and assess flags of the past and flags of the future.
Where you see that many flags should only be seen in front of THE UNITED NATIONS.
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CHEATING HEARTS

As mentioned about why men cheat, there are reasons why Women cheat. This information I found to be interesting, as I did my research. They are not necessarily the same reasons why men cheat, so we can't lump cheating into one big lumps sum of betrayal.
1. Women get close very easily
2 we are emotional sponges.
3. we are progressive, we move fast,
4 accustomed to the dangers of drama and excitement around relational drama.
5.we can fall out of love quickly and decide we no longer like our mate.
6.women cheat when they are emotionally vulnerable
7. women gravitate  toward men who make them feel good
That's enough for now, but there's more.
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CHEATERS

 What are the characteristics of a man who CHEATS?
Dr Irwin Marcus discovers that cheating isn't only about sex it's about the man's deep-seeded issues, Take a look at his list of personality issues that drive a man to affairs. Do any of these look familiar?
The Adulteen
The Playmate
The Pleasure seeker
The Conquistador
The Sampler
The Independent
The daredevil
The aging Fear
Search for New Spouse
The Troubled Man beyond
If your partner or you recognize these and want to stop, you can, but you need professional help, So DO it and save your marriage.www.mediationandcouseling.com find us on FB faceboook.com/groups/happytodaydivorcedtomorrow or www.danagreco.com

THIRD PARTY-Your relationship

With the new year and new hope we as believers in New Beginnings want to mention that relationships are the most difficult journey to be on. Each of us must give up a piece of our selves if not a lot of ourselves in order to remain in a healthy environment. Some find this really difficult and some find this easy. Me, personally, I am challenged, I am becoming more set in my ways and it's harder for me to be flexible over things, events, ideas and concepts that don't appeal to me, yet I know that the outcome is worth it.
How about you? Do you truly appreciate what you have in your relationship? Are you willing to make the necessary sacrifices in order to meet your partner half way. I tell couples there are three of you not two. There's you, your partner, and the relationship. Investing in the relationship is when you don't want to do something or your partner doesn't but for the sake of the "relationship" it must get done, there must be an investment in the relationship, otherwise it will end up an empty account. Nothing.
If you know you have a good thing, then keep depositing into the relationship account, if you both make investments, sound and honest, then the account will grow and give you a wonderful, fulfilling, return, and then enjoy your abundance.
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BORED with THE Chit Chat

Have you noticed that your repertoire has dwindled in your conversation with your partner? If it isn't about what you're planning to do this weekend, or what happened to your friend Carolyn and her boyfriend, or just moaning about job, latest TV show, subway, money, conversation has become nil? Scary. But is doesn't have to be that way. You MUST, as a couple infuse deep intellectual concepts into your repertoire if you want to keep the stimulation and excitement in your relationship.
Not everyone needs this. Some of you are happy enough, that's fine. But for some couples, at least an individual in the couple feels a yearning for new dialogue, new ways of communicating, infused riveting banter, even if it's once or twice a week. Doesn't have to be constant. There is a need for quiet, mindless time together too. But a balance of both will increase the intimacy and offer another layer of personality that you and your partner can enjoy, get to know, and grow from.
Edmund Husserl 19th century philosopher asks, " Are you willing to sacrifice the dross of conjecture for the pure gold of essential knowledge?"
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SEX and SANTA

With the Holidays and all this good cheer, Are you and your partner more sexually active, or not? Has the stress of gifts, family, spending money put a damper on your routine of romance? Maybe you are even fighting more because of the stress around the holidays. Well, there not suppose to interfere with your sex life.
What about the idea that your partner is hard to shop for. In that case get him or her something sexy to wear.
Something that is only between the two of you. He should think about getting you something romantic, why wait for Valentine's Day, that's stupid. There are plenty of opportunities to be romantic during the holiday rush so don't wait for Santa.www.facebook.com/groups/happytodaydivorcedtomorrow
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FIRST IMPRESSION IS LAST IMPRESSION

first impressions as we have been told are lasting impressions.  As humans, we have a switch that goes off that quickly sizes up new encounters. Immediately, we make snap judgments.
Of course, over time, exposed to the same person, place or thing other factors come in and expand our thinking and our impression on it.
As an exercise, consider the first time you met your partner. The very first encounter, what was your impression? How much of it still remains registered in your brain? Good? Bad? Indifferent?
Do you think sometimes when there are problems or conflicts in the relationship you have reverted back to earlier impressions? Even your first impression?
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