Balance in relationships vary

Do you know what makes your relationship work? What keeps it balanced/ Giving each other space and freedom or maintaining a daily physical connection? Talking or not talking but be with each other in a mindful spiritual or present state and sharing a movie.
Are you both in need of socialization or do one of you stay in and agree to be apart from social circles
Are one of you the ambitious type while the other is the silent supporter?
What works for you?
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Saturday Night Date for couples

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Does she come with baggage?

Does he come with a host of problems, debts, kids and exes?
Good grief, at the onset of a relationship if you see flags then pay attention. If he is too needy and clings or she is too crabby an easily humorless, then pay attention. These personality traits and histories don't get better, they get more complicated.
If you fall in love with the man and you have to fall in love with the baggage too. AND don't think you are going to rescue him, or save her. Be a friend to yourself first
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Happy Today Divorced Tomorrow THE BOOK

Our book is just about completed. Soon you will be on your way to Happily Ever After
As I read through I am very excited for the readers who buy this book. It has so much insight into what really goes into a relationship and how it can screw up or how it can succeed. We are going to see a drop in divorce which keeps us to our word of waging war on divorce. Maybe mediation won't be about separating assets but negotiating successful marriages.
Stay in touch so you will know when OUR book is out and ready for YOU

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LIVING TOGETHER YET?

Should you live together or live apart? How do you know if it's time to move into together? Financial savings should not be the reason, unless you also accept that the relationship can end up with you both as roommates paying your share.
Moving into together can have its pros and cons. This is where you both should make a list and be honest.
For example, if you have a need for personal time, then tell him or her. Sitting on your bed or on the couch with a book, watching TV or staring at your laptop means, "I like to be alone for a bit". That's perfectly normal and acceptable, what wouldn't be fair is if you never shared that vital piece of information. Then when you are overwhelmed with too much together time suddenly your behavior changes, to the negative.

Each of you may have a different perspective of what is shared time, living together time, alone time, etc. If one of you works in the home, it doesn't mean that when your finished for the day you are ready to be social. Yet, the partner who is home also, is.
Living together can add excitement and more passion or be a disaster. Setting boundaries and discussing them will make an adjustment a pleasant one.
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BOOK IS FINISHED

We would like to take this day to announce we have finally completed our book. HAPPY TODAY DIVORCED TOMORROW? Paving the way to Happily Ever After.
Don and I have written a unique and informational book. He wrote his version and I wrote mine.
we both offer personal insight from our personal experiences of divorce, he being divorced twice and I as a child of a bitter divorce. and that's the intro, the rest of the book are resources, tools and inspiration on how to make YOUR relationship the very best it can be. We hope you will read it when it hits the books stores.
It's the ONLY relationship book you will ever need.

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SEX TONE

Who sets the tone for intimacy in your relationship? Is it him, because he is a man and needs to have his 72 hour sex cycle satisfied? Or is it her who feels lonely or rejected and needs to cuddle?
What and who initiates the affection in your relationship? Does it include sex and toys and adventure, or is it about love and romance? Is it about both, and if so who suggests what? Or do neither one of you say anything and it remains the same routine. Are you both wanting to enhance, or is just one of you thinking that? And the other is fine with the way it is as long as it is consistent. Well MAKE UP YOUR MIND. If the love and affection and the sex in your relationship can be better and more exciting maybe because one of you took the initiative to do something about it, then instead of thinking your partner is a pervert allow and encourage an upgrade. Go for the GOLD www.danagreco.com www.meditationandcounseling.com
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Will You LOVE again?

Many people who are contemplating divorce often worry that they may never find love again. Trust me YOU DO, it doesn't mean you find the healthy love but if you are a relationship type person chances are you will be in a relationship again.
For you who likes being in a relationship, you will or might be solo for a bit maybe a few months, a year, maybe a few weeks. The good news is you will seek out and find. Be careful of the REBOUND
Just make sure this time or at least try to observe and assess flags of the past and flags of the future.
Where you see that many flags should only be seen in front of THE UNITED NATIONS.
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CHEATING HEARTS

As mentioned about why men cheat, there are reasons why Women cheat. This information I found to be interesting, as I did my research. They are not necessarily the same reasons why men cheat, so we can't lump cheating into one big lumps sum of betrayal.
1. Women get close very easily
2 we are emotional sponges.
3. we are progressive, we move fast,
4 accustomed to the dangers of drama and excitement around relational drama.
5.we can fall out of love quickly and decide we no longer like our mate.
6.women cheat when they are emotionally vulnerable
7. women gravitate  toward men who make them feel good
That's enough for now, but there's more.
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THIRD PARTY-Your relationship

With the new year and new hope we as believers in New Beginnings want to mention that relationships are the most difficult journey to be on. Each of us must give up a piece of our selves if not a lot of ourselves in order to remain in a healthy environment. Some find this really difficult and some find this easy. Me, personally, I am challenged, I am becoming more set in my ways and it's harder for me to be flexible over things, events, ideas and concepts that don't appeal to me, yet I know that the outcome is worth it.
How about you? Do you truly appreciate what you have in your relationship? Are you willing to make the necessary sacrifices in order to meet your partner half way. I tell couples there are three of you not two. There's you, your partner, and the relationship. Investing in the relationship is when you don't want to do something or your partner doesn't but for the sake of the "relationship" it must get done, there must be an investment in the relationship, otherwise it will end up an empty account. Nothing.
If you know you have a good thing, then keep depositing into the relationship account, if you both make investments, sound and honest, then the account will grow and give you a wonderful, fulfilling, return, and then enjoy your abundance.
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BORED with THE Chit Chat

Have you noticed that your repertoire has dwindled in your conversation with your partner? If it isn't about what you're planning to do this weekend, or what happened to your friend Carolyn and her boyfriend, or just moaning about job, latest TV show, subway, money, conversation has become nil? Scary. But is doesn't have to be that way. You MUST, as a couple infuse deep intellectual concepts into your repertoire if you want to keep the stimulation and excitement in your relationship.
Not everyone needs this. Some of you are happy enough, that's fine. But for some couples, at least an individual in the couple feels a yearning for new dialogue, new ways of communicating, infused riveting banter, even if it's once or twice a week. Doesn't have to be constant. There is a need for quiet, mindless time together too. But a balance of both will increase the intimacy and offer another layer of personality that you and your partner can enjoy, get to know, and grow from.
Edmund Husserl 19th century philosopher asks, " Are you willing to sacrifice the dross of conjecture for the pure gold of essential knowledge?"
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SEX and SANTA

With the Holidays and all this good cheer, Are you and your partner more sexually active, or not? Has the stress of gifts, family, spending money put a damper on your routine of romance? Maybe you are even fighting more because of the stress around the holidays. Well, there not suppose to interfere with your sex life.
What about the idea that your partner is hard to shop for. In that case get him or her something sexy to wear.
Something that is only between the two of you. He should think about getting you something romantic, why wait for Valentine's Day, that's stupid. There are plenty of opportunities to be romantic during the holiday rush so don't wait for Santa.www.facebook.com/groups/happytodaydivorcedtomorrow
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FIRST IMPRESSION IS LAST IMPRESSION

first impressions as we have been told are lasting impressions.  As humans, we have a switch that goes off that quickly sizes up new encounters. Immediately, we make snap judgments.
Of course, over time, exposed to the same person, place or thing other factors come in and expand our thinking and our impression on it.
As an exercise, consider the first time you met your partner. The very first encounter, what was your impression? How much of it still remains registered in your brain? Good? Bad? Indifferent?
Do you think sometimes when there are problems or conflicts in the relationship you have reverted back to earlier impressions? Even your first impression?
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JUST ADMIT IT

It's not a mortal sin to admit when you made a mistake, we all do. If you fear being ridiculed or judged or scolded that's understandable. Although it's important to pay attention to where it comes from. If the person who calls you out on your faux pas loves you, then take your lickings, apologize, and move on. If your partner tells you they care about you and love you, then a little scolding isn't going to send the relationship back to zero. If your partner is frustrated with you over something that isn't a major catastrophe then keep your ego out of it and just validate her or his feelings of frustration, rather than reverse blame, rationalize or justify your actions. If you know your partner loves you, you should feel safe enough to say,'You're right, I'm sorry you are frustrated with me." This will make your partner feel a whole lot better about you and the relationship. Kiss and forget about it. UNLESS!! THEY KEEP SCREWING UP! 

MONEY SPENT AND THE HOLIDAYS

With gift giving season how do you feel about spending on your loved one? Do you and your partner splurge on each other? Or do you share a gift, meaning that you buy something or do something together?
I hope you don't just buy him another tie or gloves or buy her earrings (unless their diamonds!) But instead, you both talk about something to do or have that you wouldn't normally do the rest of the year.
Even a weekend away or a Broadway show can be a special gift if this isn't the norm. What about taking in a lecture, or a cooking class together?
If you want him to unwrap something under the tree, then may be that can be you. Or if she likes a little holiday romance, snuggle up to her a little longer in the morning or make her breakfast in bed.
So it's not about the expensive gifts it's the creativity and thought behind them that say "I know you, and you have been VERY GOOD this year."
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WILL YOU CHEAT ON YOUR PARTNER?

What keeps you from cheating or betraying your partner? Is it that you hold the relationship you are in sacred? Are you afraid of getting caught? Or is your relationship so satisfying that no one else could be as wonderful or as loving as your partner?
There are many reasons why people cheat.One is the boredom, another is to get through a relationship without having to end it, or you are starved for needs that can't be met and someone comes along and fills that void. There are cheaters because the problems in the relationship are such that cheating is just an alarm to bigger problems that are going on.
Whether it's emotional or physical, stepping outside of the relationship is a cause for reassessment and a sit down with your mate.
If you are so unhappy and you feel you may be vulnerable and  the possibility of hurting the couple-hood you are in, before you go and allow someone else into your private space, (the relationship) then think twice and sit your man or woman down and express how you really feel.
If that other partner doesn't wake up and smell the coffee, you got huge problems. Better get some counseling. any comments? www.facebook.com/groups/happytodaydivorcedtomorrow or www.danagreco.com or read our articles on www.mediationandcounseling.com

IN LAWS AND HOLIDAYS

It's a wonder how you can be married to someone and their siblings are the complete opposite of your partner. But now you have to get along with them, but how. First of all, since her sister is an uptight snob which would never be your kind of people how are you to win her over? Or his brother is a loser which makes you appreciate your partner more but wonder why is your partner successful but his brother is a lazy bum?
It's important to find out why in the sibling world do siblings experience their lives so differently.Don't need to analyze but knowing how and why your partner turned out the way they did separate from their siblings is a clue to future success in your relationship.
Getting along with the siblings of your partner despite the vast difference of personality is the challenge. Meeting them where they are is the key. Blend rather then repel.Granted her brother is a spoiled prince and your partner carried the world on her shoulders is not something you need to change. This system has formed long before you got there,just go with it and if anything, help her rather than fight her on it. Any comments or questions join us on FB www.facebook.com/groups/happytodaydivorcedtomorrow find us www.mediationandcounseling.com and www.danagreco.com

WHY YOU WILL BE DIVORCED

DO you know why You will be Divorced?
Because what you think is True Love is really just True LUST.
Real Love doesn't divorce, Love may fight, love may hurt  but all in the name of PASSIONate committed LOVE,  LOVE doesn't discard or Leave or Divorce. LOVE DOESN'T Call Lawyers.
LUST will guarantee leaving, LUST is short lived. LUST Is selfish LUST is one dimensional, it finds fault, it fears being rejected, it's insecure,it's superior, it's inferior, it compares, it criticizes. LUST gets aroused and then quiets down. LOVE perpetuates LOVE is never quiet LOVE never ages, you are as beautiful as the moment you Fell into it. LUST Makes you fat, ugly, boring,mean, bitter. LOVE IS ALWAYS LOVE impenetrable.
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WHO MAKES THE COMPLAINT?

We were out last night to see the Broadway show JANIS JOPLIN, a tribute to a soulful woman, good tribute over all. My point is that despite the show and the theatrical experience blah blah, my concern is that because for obvious money reasons, security allowed misbehaved patrons to walk in and out of the theatre, cheapening the performance like it was a McDonald's.
We were constantly being disturbed by "clearly novice theatre goers".But which one of us said something to the theatre personnel? Who in your relationship, opens up their mouth to make a complaint? Do both of you steam and gripe to yourselves? Does one politely bring it to the attention of one who can do something about it, or does one of you freak out and demand your money back? Or do you get the  "SHHHH, don't make a scene!!
If you and your partner have been in similar situations while out or with customer service, and one of you feels you're fighting the beast alone, bring this up in a conversation. Especially, when you need him or her to back you up, or pull you back before you start swinging.
It's one of you who speaks up, but how does the other feel sitting silent?
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Is there Trust in your relationship?

Trust is the basis of a true partnership, without it there is nothing that keeps you together.
Not only is trust about affairs and infidelity it includes behaviors such as predictability, reliability,saying what you mean, speaking up for what you need, being open and receptive, and saying no for the purpose of self-preservation and self-esteem.
Trusting in yourself as to knowing who you are in the relationship has much to do with the ability to trust your partner in knowing who they are.
Seriously, what is the point if you  have to question your partners intentions, or wonder if what she says will she follow through. When she tells you one thing but does something else, It is a betrayal. And that hurts.
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