| ARGUING When Arguing Helps When you think of a couple arguing, what's the first image that comes to mind? Al and Peggy Bundy from "Married with Children"? Ike and Tina Turner? Maybe even your next door neighbors? Whatever you envision, it's important to remember that when #ConsciousCoupling, what may seem or sound like a fight may actually be something going on within those walls that's healthy and constructive. Watching Your Tone Couples are going to disagree about some things, that's a given. What turns a disagreement into an all-out argument (most of the time) is when someone starts yelling at the other. No one likes to be screamed at, no matter if they're deep in love or not. That being said, always watch your tone. More than likely what you are disagreeing about isn't that serious anyway, and you shouldn't let it mess up your day. Respect your partner as a person, and don't be so loud that the neighbors are in your business. If the two of you are talking one on one privately about an issue, then it should stay that way. #ConsciousCoupling means listeding to constructive criticism and doing what is right for both instead of doing everything everybody tells you. Agreeing to Disagree If you and your partner don't live together, then small disagreements may not turn into arguments, simply because you're not always around each other. The little annoying things they do don't have enough of a chance to irk you when you're in separate houses! But, if the two of you do cohabitate, then you have to realize that at the end of the day you need to come to some type of agreement, even if it's a disagreement. Remember, relationships are give and take. You can't have everything your way, and neither can they. Be accepting of small idiosyncrasies and miniscule things that you don't particularly like about them. If you love the person completely and unconditionally, you'll actually begin to see the beauty in their flaws and you will have developed your #ConsciousCoupling. |
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