| Friendship is key to keeping your relationship strong Pop culture pushes for the strongest part of relationship to be lust but if you want the relationship to last the most important part to focus on is the friendship between you and your partner. This is because friendship is a form of being intimate - it requires trust, openness, and non-judgmental thoughts. While lusting after your partner makes it clear you sexually desire them, being friends with and caring for your partner shows that your commitment to them goes much deeper than a physical relationship. Friendship implies that you want the best for the other person and that you want to encourage them and support them through thick and thin. Being friends with your partner helps the two of you determine who among your other friends is really there to help your relationship and not just stand by and watch a problem arise and destroy you. Being friends means that you can communicate well about both good and bad matters, that you accept any flaws your partner may have, that you can be playful with each other, that you can trust each other with the deepest and most personal secrets, and that you are willing to both learn from and teach each other as well as learning together. However, being too close to your partner could lead to trouble. Sometimes in best friendships words are exchanged in the heat of the moment that can lead to the end of the friendship. As a result of fights like this it is easy for friendships to fall apart because it is likely the two people do not live together and therefore can easily avoid seeing each other. In a relationship it is harder to do that since nearly half of unmarried couples are participating in cohabitation or spend multiple nights a week at the other's home.
As Dr. Paul Coleman, author of The 30 Secrets of Happily Married Couples says, "When passion has its ups and downs, friendship is the stabilizing force. It says 'I care...you are important to me.'"
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