| #AreYouCompatible? Being compatible is more than just getting along; it's about sharing interests, goals, and values and participating in #ConsciousCoupling can help you figure out if you truly are compatible with your partner. It's easy to think that just because you and your partner are opposite since "opposites attract" that you are totally compatible but you need to think about what aspects of each of you are opposite of each other. For example, a destructive and oppressive relationship can come out of a relationship between a passive person and a dominant person or between a dependent person and one who seeks those who need their help. However, it is possible that a functional relationship can come out of one person being very quiet and the other very extroverted because people at opposite ends of the spectrum can balance each other out.
First off, compatibility is not all-or-nothing, you can be more or less compatible. Basically, being compatible is more about the degree to which you are functionally compatible. A big part of compatibility is about sharing values - those that are basic such as the importance of an education to those that can be more intense such as religious values. However, personalities are a big part of compatibility as well. Two people who are self-centered, meaning that they believe everything they believe in is what is true, good, or right, won't be compatible but a relationship between one self-centered person and one who is not can likely last a long time but won't necessarily be functional. This is because having to constantly adopt the beliefs of someone else can be exhausting and cause many problems; this can also be the case for two people from separate religions, or between someone who is an atheist and someone who is very religious.
On the other hand, strongly valuing different things such as art or science can enhance the relationship. If one person in the relationship is extremely interested in science and the other in art, there are endless things that they can teach other and talk about and learn from the other. Another thing that is important in determining whether you and your partner are compatible is if you share the same emotional and behavioral management skills. If you both have the ability to talk things out and rationally assess a situation then you have the potential to be a good match but if you both consistently take part in name-calling and other self-defeating tactics or you both would rather never talk things out and pretend they didn't happen then the relationship will be dysfunctional. Overall, it's important to think about everything that makes you you and everything that makes your partner them and from there begin to rationally determine whether or not a functional relationship is possible between the two of you.
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