| #AreYouAfraidToDate Before you can begin a relationship, you'll have to date around a little bit. Some people overdate, aka they date too much and don't really give anyone a chance to try and form a relationship. But then there are others who underdate, or don't date as much as they should be. This can be for a variety of reasons and #ConsciousCoupling is here to help you determine the true reason you are dating as much as you are.
The first and likely reason for most could be you're scared of getting hurt due to past relationships, whether it was with friends, family, or romantic partner. Beginning a relationship requires a certain level of trust and if you have been hurt badly by someone, physically or emotionally, it can be hard to put your trust in a new person you don't know well. While this is completely understandable, you need to realize that if you continue closing your heart to anyone new, you will never allow yourself to meet anyone and will end up alone. It's important to remain cautious to avoid getting hurt again, but you also need to take chances and allow yourself to open up to new people. A second reason is fear of NOT being single. It is true being single can be great because you have no limitations and theoretically can do whatever (or whoever) you want. You can go to the bar or club and stay out till 5 AM without worrying someone is waiting for you or consistently asking for your whereabouts. Do you really want to live that life forever? Or stay single forever? The answer could very well be yes. If the answer is no, you need to see that eventually staying out till dawn will grow boring and you'll want to stay home with someone. A third reason is that you're afraid to let someone get to know the real you, to see you not only at your best but at your worst. If you're new to the dating world and the only people to see you at your worst have been your best friends then this could be a scary thought. #ConsciousCoupling means that you accept your partner for who they are, even when it's 6 AM and they're running on two hours of sleep and can barely talk to anyone without snapping. Additionally, you could also worry that you are too busy for a relationship, you already have too many responsibilities and a boyfriend or girlfriend just doesn't fit into your life. If you feel this could be the reason, you should still give that someone you want to date a chance and that if the relationship is meant to function it will find a way to work. The fourth and final reason is fear of dating because your family may not approve of the person you bring home or they will feel as if you are focusing too much on your significant other and ignoring your familial responsibilities. If the first is the case, bring them home anyway and let your family get to know them. They may react the way you expect or they might surprise you and urge you to continue dating that person. If they don't approve, don't call it quits. This person is your partner, not your family's. If you're happy that's what matters and your family will learn to accept them. In the case your family feels you are spending too much time with your partner and not enough with your family, try and merge the two. Your family will always be there for you if the relationship doesn't work out and they'll be there for you if it does. Take the chance.
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