Do we expose ourselves
freely
When they ask, "hey,
you have that look of love in your eyes, what's the deal?" Do we spill the
beans and offer every glorious moment?
If we do, then the cat is out of the bag. And you know it's not so easy to put the cat back in the bag.
Friends and Family are most likely to want to know you are fulfilled and in a healthy relationship, wishing you happiness as they get to know your partner and build a relationship with you as a couple. That is all perfect and the best scenario.
Then there's the news that things are not going so well lately with your loved one, you open up and expose dirty details that make your partner less appealing to your friends, and now your family isn't so thrilled either since they have learned that there is an ugly side to this new person. Not too excited to see him or her at the next Family dinner. The two of you are back as one, and the conflict has resolved, well, maybe for the two of you, but not for your parents who now are on guard to protect you, and now they give him or her the cold shoulder. When going out with your best friend who was also told by you that your partner pulled some kind of low move on you, his or her invitation to join the group is not so hospitable. But again, you and your partner have resolved your issue, all is well, you both stayed up all night talking and talking until the silly little misunderstanding was fixed and love prevails. Not with your friends and family unfortunately, unless they stayed up with the both of you all night too and helped out. Quite, unlikely. Nope, all they know is what you told them when you were mad, and that is pretty much what they are going to remember. So as a practice, it's imperative to keep the upsets and bickering inside your relationship, and protect it as its own virtue. Side note: If it's an abusive relationship meaning physical or verbal, then you had better tell someone, but these are the dirty details that get hidden. You know whether you are in a healthy or dysfunctional relationship,hopefully and you will then make the necessary decisions. Go to: www.mediationandcounseling.com
or www.danagreco.com to learn more.
If we do, then the cat is out of the bag. And you know it's not so easy to put the cat back in the bag.
Friends and Family are most likely to want to know you are fulfilled and in a healthy relationship, wishing you happiness as they get to know your partner and build a relationship with you as a couple. That is all perfect and the best scenario.
Then there's the news that things are not going so well lately with your loved one, you open up and expose dirty details that make your partner less appealing to your friends, and now your family isn't so thrilled either since they have learned that there is an ugly side to this new person. Not too excited to see him or her at the next Family dinner. The two of you are back as one, and the conflict has resolved, well, maybe for the two of you, but not for your parents who now are on guard to protect you, and now they give him or her the cold shoulder. When going out with your best friend who was also told by you that your partner pulled some kind of low move on you, his or her invitation to join the group is not so hospitable. But again, you and your partner have resolved your issue, all is well, you both stayed up all night talking and talking until the silly little misunderstanding was fixed and love prevails. Not with your friends and family unfortunately, unless they stayed up with the both of you all night too and helped out. Quite, unlikely. Nope, all they know is what you told them when you were mad, and that is pretty much what they are going to remember. So as a practice, it's imperative to keep the upsets and bickering inside your relationship, and protect it as its own virtue. Side note: If it's an abusive relationship meaning physical or verbal, then you had better tell someone, but these are the dirty details that get hidden. You know whether you are in a healthy or dysfunctional relationship,hopefully and you will then make the necessary decisions. Go to: www.mediationandcounseling.com
or www.danagreco.com to learn more.
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