Is your relationship failing?

Highlights from our Radio Podcast: Dana and Don discussed  "What are the signs in a failing relationship?"   Lack of respect or condescending, sometimes you may think his or her sarcasm is their humor, unfortunately, sarcasm is passive hostility, listen next time to yourself or your partner, and address it, because chances are..it doesn't feel good. Undermining your partner in front of the children. Talking over your partner when they are trying to speak. These subtleties chip away at your relationship and eventually leaves the receiver bitter, hurt and disconnected.     The giver hopefully realizes he or she has unresolved complaints but cannot address them.     Both of you need to speak up, calmly and lovingly.  Speak now because the relationship may be in a free fall.  Each of you has the power to take that one step towards recovery.  Have the courage and be the brave one to put yourself out there.    Listen to the Recorded Show       We are listening and here to help, Dana and Don OUR WAR ON DIVORCE   We are providing the tools and techniques to keep your relationship from heading down the path of divorce. Everything about your relationship takes work, some things more than others. We are not trying to stop your divorce if you have made the decision to do so, we are trying to make you aware of the things that would drive you and your partner down that path. Get the professional help your relationship deserves. Surprise yourself in finding the true happiness that you both deserve.  Soul mates are made and not found.    Learn More About What We Do: Divorce Mediators Our non-profit organization as Family Advocates "HappyToday, Divorced Tomorrow" Book "Happy Today, Divorced Tomorrow" Facebook Group Discussions Dana's Individual and Couple's Counseling Dana Greco's Parent Book    Mediation and Counseling Parenting Book

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Do you know if your partner is committed to your relationship?

Highlights from our Radio Podcast: Dana and Don discussed  "How do You Know your Partner is Committed" What's the difference between Exclusive and Committed relationships?   What are the signs of the exclusive what are the signs of a committed.   We used examples of couples and illustrated what are typical scenarios to these stages of the relationship.   Maybe he is not committed and she is  or the other way around? What to do then, And lastly what makes a healthy relationship?   Tune in and learn and make your relationship the best it can be. Listen to how you can avoid this or what to do if you have been going through years of this in your relationship or marriage.      Listen To Our Radio Podcast      We apologize that our email last night should have had a different link to the radio podcast for "EGO in the Relationship".  Click here    We are listening and here to help, Dana and Don     OUR WAR ON DIVORCE    We encourage and support your relationship to help you not head down the path of divorce. Everything about your relationship takes work, some things more than others.  We are not trying to stop your divorce if you have made the decision to do so, we are trying to make you aware of the things that would drive you and your partner down that path.  Get the professional help your relationship deserves. Surprise yourself in finding the true happiness that you both deserve.     Learn more about what we do: Divorce Mediators  Our non-profit organization as Family Advocates "HappyToday, Divorced Tomorrow" Book "Happy Today, Divorced Tomorrow" Facebook Group Discussions Dana's Individual and Couple's Counseling Dana Greco's Parent Book

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Is your EGO Getting in the way?

Highlights from our Radio Podcast: How does ego play a role in relationship?          Sharing your heart with someone takes putting your EGO away.  With EGO your walls go up.  When relationships are at risk so is your heart and that's when you or your partner retract.                  One couple as an example: married twenty years, he is unhappy about his job and she is not sure why he is unhappy but he doesn't talk to her.  He fears he may be judged or criticized once again.  However in her head she feels rejected and thinks he is deliberately avoiding her, feeling unloved.                        She puts a wall up and he can't get through and he puts his wall up.  Two EGOs have sabotaged a once happy marriage.               Listen to how you can avoid this or what to do if you have been going through years of this in your relationship or marriage.         Listen To Our Radio Podcast About This Subject    We are listening and here to help, Dana and Don     OUR WAR ON DIVORCE    We encourage and support your relationship to help you not head down the path of divorce. Everything about your relationship takes work, some things more than others.  We are not trying to stop your divorce if you have made the decision to do so, we are trying to make you aware of the things that would drive you and your partner down that path.  Get the professional help your relationship deserves. Surprise yourself in finding the true happiness that you both deserve.     Learn more about what we do: Divorce Mediators  Our non-profit organization as Family Advocates "HappyToday, Divorced Tomorrow" Book "Happy Today, Divorced Tomorrow" Facebook Group Discussions Dana's Individual and Couple's Counseling Dana Greco's Parent Book

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Does Sex Matter? ...For Women

Highlights from our Radio Podcast "Happy Today Divorced Tomorrow?" We asked the question "Does Sex Matter? for women". A woman takes longer than a man to be fully engaged.  A lot of this is emotional and mental.   A woman needs to be in good spirits, happy, emotionally connected to her man and romanced.    You could say that all the planets have to be aligned and if one planet goes off course, you need to start the process all over again.    Make sure as a man you ensure you are meeting her needs.  Romancing her, giving her emotional support, talking to her and caressing her.  Get to know her needs and you will get your needs met.    Listen To Our Radio Podcast About This Subject    With the Warmest Regards, Dana and Don     OUR WAR ON DIVORCE    We encourage and support your relationship to help you not head down the path of divorce. Everything about your relationship takes work, some things more than others.  We are not trying to stop your divorce if you have made the decision to do so, we are trying to make you aware of the things that would drive you and your partner down that path.  Get the professional help your relationship deserves. Surprise yourself in finding the true happiness that you both deserve.     Learn more about what we do: Divorce Mediators  Our non-profit organization as Family Advocates "HappyToday, Divorced Tomorrow" Book "Happy Today, Divorced Tomorrow" Facebook Group Discussions Dana's Individual and Couple's Counseling Dana Greco's Parent Book

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Does Sex Matter? ...For Men

Highlights from Happy Today Divorced Tomorrow? radio blog we asked the question "Does Sex Matter? for men". Physically a man needs sex for reasons such as release, a man is industrious and a fixer , problem solver by nature To please a woman is his desire To be appreciated by his partner gives him the validation he needs. validation is one of the six basic human needs. Emotionally, a man feels connected during and after sex, a sense of attachment, and in a partnership there is a sense of "falling in love". When the need for sex builds up but no release as in intimacy with his partner the man can become easily aroused perhaps fantasize, perhaps stray. As our mission to wage war on divorce we encourage and support your relationship. If your sex life is not what you believe it should be and there are problems that are not being addressed then you are closer to divorce. Get the professional help your relationship deserves. Surprise yourself in finding the true happiness that you both deserve. Radio Podcast   "Was it you or I who stumbled first? It does not matter. The one of us who finds the strength to get up first, must help the other."  Vera Nazarian , The Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration Dana and Don     Learn more about what we do: Divorce Mediators  Our non-profit organization as Family Advocates Co-hosting & Producing "New Beginnings Radio Show "HappyToday, Divorced Tomorrow" Book "Happy Today, Divorced Tomorrow" Facebook Group Discussions Dana's Individual and Couple's Counseling Buy er easy rad parent book  http://www.danagreco.com/wordpress5/?page_id=905

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Unique book on parenting

Please Don't BUY me Ice Cream, a child's rules for priceless parenting,  has been a favorite among many good parents. Along with many other notable therapists, this book has proven to make parenting much more enjoyable, and validating. It is not filled with unrealistic tasks and homework, in fact quite the opposite, it's the children that are telling you Mom and Dad what THEY need. Buy it today, it's an easy read and fun to discuss with the whole family.

Here's to the next generation of healthy people

One little boy avoids making friends he feels guilty leaving his mom home alone. My own mother made me feel bad every time I left the house, she'd say " Go go, have a good time, I'll be ok." sitting there with her sad face I felt torn, miserable and guilty.
We know today's parent are much wiser, but that's because you have access to good resources and you do the research, however, the pain of a lost marriage and divorced home does not take away our sadness nor hide it.
In my book "Please Don't Buy Me Ice cream, a child's rules for priceless parenting" by Dana Greco, points out the very important fact that children cannot solve problems at an adult level. Read this book, order it on Amazon or B&N or send a check to Dana Greco 536 west 111th Street #5 NY NY 10025
Read about what children are feeling, and see if you are on the right track
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What Type Of Parent Are You?

Before you married, did you and your partner discuss parenting styles, roles and values?  Did you talk about how many you wanted or how you would discipline them?  If you didn't discuss these things before and the arguments are just being brought to light now, it brings up another question as to how do you argue?  Our values are deep seeded and most often derived from our childhood and drive our parenting styles.  Are you aware of your own values and how they influence your parenting style?  Our book, "HappyToday Divorced Tomorrow, Paving the way toward Happily ever after",  is in the final stages of editing as we begin our war against Divorce.  As divorce mediators, we understand why people are divorcing and want to help people before it gets to the "Point of No Return".  This is the first email of a series of communications providing tips, stories and suggestions to help you in your relationship and families.  All the information we provide relate back to a chapter in our book.  Please reply back if you have no interest in receiving these emails. With the Warmest Regards, Dana and Don Learn more about what we do: Divorce Mediators  Our non-profit organization as Family Advocates Co-hosting & Producing "New Beginnings Radio Show "HappyToday, Divorced Tomorrow" Book "Happy Today, Divorced Tomorrow" Facebook Group Discussions Dana's Individual and Couple's Counseling  Family Counseling and Divorce Mediation  Visit Our Site

children of divorce

we all know that children get hurt when their parents divorce, and even though sometimes the relief of their parents no longer fighting in the home is positive. unfortunately, children will forget about the fighting or often heal from the trauma and intensity of the yelling or screaming that went on, and be left with the loss and emptiness of a broken home. As the human condition heals, so do the memories of fighting fade. yet the reality for children is their parents live apart, maybe move on to new relationships and their lives are disrupted with schlepping from home to home, hello to mom  good bye to dad, hello to dad goodbye to mon day after day after day
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If your spouse is GAY

when your dating your man or woman and you suspect he or she may be gay what do you do?
The possibility is that they may be bi-sexual which is most likely. Your relationship may become serious and end up in marriage with children. And like any other marriage it is prone to infidelity if the connection is lost.
Chances are your spouse may turn to another partner either the opposite sex like you or want to explore their homosexual relationship. When this happens their is sometimes a feeling of betrayal not only the infidelity but the betrayal of truth about sexuality. If you suspect that your partner may be gay it is best for them to explore this before the commitment of marriage. Suppressing the truth will only hurt everyone eventually.
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Balance in relationships vary

Do you know what makes your relationship work? What keeps it balanced/ Giving each other space and freedom or maintaining a daily physical connection? Talking or not talking but be with each other in a mindful spiritual or present state and sharing a movie.
Are you both in need of socialization or do one of you stay in and agree to be apart from social circles
Are one of you the ambitious type while the other is the silent supporter?
What works for you?
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" if you want a man to really commit to you seduce you, chase you, and keep that spark going forever you can't just make him love you, you've got to make him ADDICTED to you ."

 We heard this from a "relationship expert" What do you think? Does addiction mean healthy relationship.
What is being addicted to you partner really mean?
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Saturday Night Date for couples

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join us for our get together this Saturday
refreshments will be served and conversation will be for allhttp://www.meetup.com/NYC-Relationships-After-Divorce/events/161192862/
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Does she come with baggage?

Does he come with a host of problems, debts, kids and exes?
Good grief, at the onset of a relationship if you see flags then pay attention. If he is too needy and clings or she is too crabby an easily humorless, then pay attention. These personality traits and histories don't get better, they get more complicated.
If you fall in love with the man and you have to fall in love with the baggage too. AND don't think you are going to rescue him, or save her. Be a friend to yourself first
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Einstein was correct!

he said " women marry men and hope they will change, and men marry women hoping they will never change, inevitably both are disappointed" many couples marry and secretly think this very thing. Are you in a relationship that maybe, just maybe there are little personality nuances you would like to see tweeked, enhanced or completely omitted?
our soon to be published book "Happy Today Divorced Tomorrow, paving the way to happily ever after" will cover this and many other topics that will make your relationship work better than ever.
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Happy Today Divorced Tomorrow THE BOOK

Our book is just about completed. Soon you will be on your way to Happily Ever After
As I read through I am very excited for the readers who buy this book. It has so much insight into what really goes into a relationship and how it can screw up or how it can succeed. We are going to see a drop in divorce which keeps us to our word of waging war on divorce. Maybe mediation won't be about separating assets but negotiating successful marriages.
Stay in touch so you will know when OUR book is out and ready for YOU

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LIVING TOGETHER YET?

Should you live together or live apart? How do you know if it's time to move into together? Financial savings should not be the reason, unless you also accept that the relationship can end up with you both as roommates paying your share.
Moving into together can have its pros and cons. This is where you both should make a list and be honest.
For example, if you have a need for personal time, then tell him or her. Sitting on your bed or on the couch with a book, watching TV or staring at your laptop means, "I like to be alone for a bit". That's perfectly normal and acceptable, what wouldn't be fair is if you never shared that vital piece of information. Then when you are overwhelmed with too much together time suddenly your behavior changes, to the negative.

Each of you may have a different perspective of what is shared time, living together time, alone time, etc. If one of you works in the home, it doesn't mean that when your finished for the day you are ready to be social. Yet, the partner who is home also, is.
Living together can add excitement and more passion or be a disaster. Setting boundaries and discussing them will make an adjustment a pleasant one.
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BOOK IS FINISHED

We would like to take this day to announce we have finally completed our book. HAPPY TODAY DIVORCED TOMORROW? Paving the way to Happily Ever After.
Don and I have written a unique and informational book. He wrote his version and I wrote mine.
we both offer personal insight from our personal experiences of divorce, he being divorced twice and I as a child of a bitter divorce. and that's the intro, the rest of the book are resources, tools and inspiration on how to make YOUR relationship the very best it can be. We hope you will read it when it hits the books stores.
It's the ONLY relationship book you will ever need.

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SEX TONE

Who sets the tone for intimacy in your relationship? Is it him, because he is a man and needs to have his 72 hour sex cycle satisfied? Or is it her who feels lonely or rejected and needs to cuddle?
What and who initiates the affection in your relationship? Does it include sex and toys and adventure, or is it about love and romance? Is it about both, and if so who suggests what? Or do neither one of you say anything and it remains the same routine. Are you both wanting to enhance, or is just one of you thinking that? And the other is fine with the way it is as long as it is consistent. Well MAKE UP YOUR MIND. If the love and affection and the sex in your relationship can be better and more exciting maybe because one of you took the initiative to do something about it, then instead of thinking your partner is a pervert allow and encourage an upgrade. Go for the GOLD www.danagreco.com www.meditationandcounseling.com
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