| #WhatYourPartnerWants A big part of #ConsciousCoupling is knowing what your partner wants and doesn't want. This can be anything from as simple as knowing what they like on their sandwich to something as big as if they want kids one day. The reason for such a big range is because it shows how much you listen to your partner, or if you even listen at all. For example, if you and your partner order food every Sunday from the same restaurant and they always get the same thing yet you continue asking what they want each week it will seem like you don't really listen to what they say. It will seem like you hear but don't pay attention, as if it goes in one ear and out the other. As a relationship progresses and becomes more serious, so do the important things you need to be aware of. Communication is key, even with small things, and especially with big things. If your partner is applying to graduate school and the two of you are trying to save up it would be unfair for you to request going on a two week long vacation to an expensive resort because that's not listening to what your partner wants. An even bigger and more often occurring issue between couples has to do with children, when one wants them but the other doesn't. This issue can be for many reasons; it could be that they don't have the finances to raise a child, the lifestyle to raise a child, or least likely but still possible, a personal problem from their childhood with their parents. The best and easiest way to know what your partner wants is to just talk about it. To really sit down and talk about everything that you want in the next year, the next five years, and the next ten years. This gets everything out in the open, builds a common trust, and makes everything easier. |
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